Mindful Parenting (CHILD CRYING & ANXIOUS WHEN PET DIED)

Mindful Parenting (CHILD CRYING & ANXIOUS WHEN PET DIED)


Mommy, Sunny’s sleeping on the floor… oh boy. the instant I heard my four-year-old I knew it was going to be a long
difficult day. Sunny you see is one of the two budgies we gave BB for her birthday and well birds don’t sleep on the floor. Apparently ready or not I was going to have a conversation about death with my four-year-old and my husband was out of town at a conference… this video is all about the child’s fear of the unknown, death anxiety. (but if you’re pregnant and you fear the unknown of labor and birth don’t worry you can check out my hypnobirthing series up there.) Just as your own fear and anxiety can come from the way you were parented or even inherited
from your family and carried within you you can also pass on fear and insecurity
to your children. I knew this moment was a significant fork in the road for BB’s
innocence. I was anxious about the answer I felt compelled to give her. My first instinct was to delay the inevitable. Let Sunny sleep! and proceeded to let her
watch as many cartoons as she wanted to stuff her face with Coco Pops anything
else that might distract her while I frantically texted my husband. When I pulled myself together, i sat down with my anxious child and told her gently that Sonny wasn’t actually sleeping. In our family we talked about energy, the mind and body are connected and without energy of the mind the body cannot function so I told her that Sunny’s body just doesn’t work anymore, her energy her soul had left. Your family may be religious, spiritual agnostic or something else and your
explanations can be what you need them to be in keeping with your beliefs and
values. It’s less about the words and more about being consistent in your
message because they’ll ask again and again! Heartbreaking but it’s our jobs to
give them that reassurance, that confirmation of what sadly IS. so here’s the plan: Keep the facts simple and use the same
turn of phrases and explanations Be consistent between each conversation you have and like perfect partners in crime, you and your partner have to stick to the same story. She asked me really hard questions like: “you mean she’ll never chirp again?” “she’ll never fly and sit on my hand?” and so the two of us just
crumpled on the floor and cried a lot and I guess we just let ourselves feel
that sadness and I’m so glad I didn’t try to rush through it. BB spent the entire day holding her dead bird honestly I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry we held a funeral and had a chance to
talk about why we love Sunny and how she made us happy and then inevitably the real bombshell landed. She asked me if she was going to die and would it hurt?
and where would she go? whoa I mean how do you even answer that? I guess you got to get okay with saying “I don’t know, let’s think about that” get okay with taking the time to consider your answer carefully to ask people for
help to ensure that you and your partner are consistent in your message. I told her that everyone dies. i weaved into our mundane conversations little teachings about the impermanence of things the impermanence of time and form. something strange compelled me to watch The Land Before Time with BB and a big
box of chocolates that evening then I knew why: I burst into tears and just
hugged my baby during that bittersweet scene where the little dinosaurs mother
dies and tells her son little “Some things you see with your eyes others you see with your heart” that gets me every time! I guess what I want to teach her is that impermanence is what makes all things, moments and people so precious. When we forget to live in the moment we forget to cherish what really matters
most. This is why YOU and I practice mindfulness together. Yes! Motherhood is going to be hard,
it’s going to be beautiful it’s gonna be bittersweet but we are not going to miss
a bit of it! If this story affected you in any way I want to hear about it in the comments. You can even download a printable worksheets below so you can formulate your consistent message and plan of action in advance! see y’all in the next video! SUBSCRIBE for more conscious PARENTING tips, PREGNANCY mindfulness tips, BIRTH mindset, growth mindset and how to teach emotional intelligence for children.

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8 Replies to “Mindful Parenting (CHILD CRYING & ANXIOUS WHEN PET DIED)”

  1. How did your parents teach you about life and death? How did that affect you and would you do anything differently for your own children? Let me know!

  2. Love your energy!!!! And wow! I can’t imagine having to figure out that conversation!! Well done mom! ❤️ and i LOVE the way you do your videos!!!

  3. Oh, wow! This is so spot on helpful! It’s seeiosiy hard to talk about this stuff — thank you for making it a bit easier!!

  4. This is a great way to approach such a delicate topic. I totally agree about being consistent and and simple so they don’t have anything to be afraid of… thank you for this!

  5. Great video, thank you! 2 relatives recently passed and (so far) between ages 3-5 there have been a lot of questions about death, which will likely continue. In our Hawaiian/Filipino culture, passing is also a celebration of life where everyone comes together. Excellent message!

  6. This is one of the hardest things about motherhood that I think I will ever face. I sometimes feel immense guilt because one day my daughter is going to have to come to terms with mine and her own death…Im still not sure how to get over it.

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